Discussion Questions
1. What was that caused Her's father to go bowling a second time?
Her wanted to reconstruct the relationship with her father and she decided to go bowling with him. She says she thinks he went bowling again because of the emotional closseness that he felt while playing bowling with them.
2. Do you agree with Her that it must've been "frightening" for her father to live with children who had adopted American culture and an American lifestyle? In a sentence or two explain how he must have felt.
I think he must have felt as if he did not belonged there. As if he was with a different family that was not his.
3. Why does the author feels "odd" teaching her father to bowl? Have you ever taught a parent or granparent something new- perhaps how to use a cellphone, send an email, or conduct an Internet search? Explain the feelings you experienced as you did this. Were you proud? Ecxited? Embarassed?
Whenever my mother gets a new cellphone, I am the one that has to teacher how to use it. Since I am not a very patient person when it comes to teaching, I often get irritated when she does not get what I say to her the first time and we always end up fighting but that is just the fun of it. After a couple of weeks she picks up what I taught and she makes me feel proud and satisfied with what I did.
Was I waiting for him to make the first move? - Mee Her
There are a lot of people in this world that I have regret not making the first move or even reached out first. Some of them are friends who were once, people I would die for but the time has been drifting us apart without having problems or something that was in-between us. Since none of us makes a first move to call or ask about each other there will never be a reconciliation for us. But there are people who are more special than friends and they are my parents. I consider my relationship with my parents very close but there is a bridge when it comes to communication. I am a very reserved person and I do not like to show my emotions to anyone not even my parents and that is when the problem starts.
My parents are very attentive and they know when I am having problems. Since they know how I am they do not bother to ask me if there is something wrong. With this essay I'll advice myself on how to overcome this communication and emotional bridge.
To begin with, I should try to not repress my feelings that much and let them know if there is a problem. Second, I would want a reunion, where there is enough time, space and privacy to let them know how I truly feel. I do not have any problems with them but the problem is within me and my suppressed emotions and that is affecting our relationship as a family.
Just as Mee Her did with her father, I should do the same with my family. Let the things that are bothering us at the back and put the important things upfront having in mind that what we are doing is for the sake of our future as human beings and most important FAMILY.
To begin with, I should try to not repress my feelings that much and let them know if there is a problem. Second, I would want a reunion, where there is enough time, space and privacy to let them know how I truly feel. I do not have any problems with them but the problem is within me and my suppressed emotions and that is affecting our relationship as a family.
Just as Mee Her did with her father, I should do the same with my family. Let the things that are bothering us at the back and put the important things upfront having in mind that what we are doing is for the sake of our future as human beings and most important FAMILY.
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